Darren Spiegel, a well known bartender for Cafe Eau, was killed this morning in a motorcycle accident. Those of us in the restaurant industry with Darren respected him greatly, and he will be sadly missed. I would like to offer my deepest condolences to his family.
Darren was a local celebrity that everyone knew; even if they only knew his face. He was personable, intelligent, and one all around great guy. He was always quick with a joke, and had a razor sharp wit.
Rest in peace, buddy.
Update:
I was able to find some information on the memorial service. The memorial visitation is Thursday, September 14 at 4 p.m. and the the memorial service is at 7 p.m. The interment is going to be private.
KUTIS AFFTON Chapel
10151 Gravois
St Louis, MO
In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to:
Australian Shepherd Rescue of St. Louis
1716 Shiloh Valley Dr.
Wildwood, MO 63005
Nature Conservancy
4245 North Fairfax Dr.
Ste. 100
Arlington, VA 22203.
September 10th, 2006 at 3:06 pm
As a fellow motorcyclist, rest in peace, Darren.
My condolences on your loss.
September 11th, 2006 at 6:07 pm
Rest in peace brother, we will miss you…
September 11th, 2006 at 7:00 pm
You will be missed by all. Rest in peace buddy.
September 11th, 2006 at 8:02 pm
We have known Darrin since High School, and we all had some great times together. Our condolences goes out to his family. May you forever Rest in Peace Darrin.
Megan and Tyler Shafer
September 11th, 2006 at 11:32 pm
I am so glad to have known Darrin and he will be remembered by all. Rest in peace Darrin you will be missed very much!
September 12th, 2006 at 2:29 am
RIP I love you so much. You really were my alter ego. I am you in a womans body. I hate it…
September 12th, 2006 at 8:36 am
You were one of my best friends ever! I am so glad to have known and lived with you… I am glad you were who you were because as hard as this is and has been I always have a thought of you that can dry my tears and make me smile… I love you buddy, and I am going to miss you so much! My cousin sent me a quote to cheer me up and I want to leave it here… “We will be together again in the end my friend” -O.A.R. RIP
September 12th, 2006 at 9:11 am
You were a great guy and always genuine. My prayers are with you and your family. You will be missed greatly. Rest easy in God’s hands; we will see you again.
September 12th, 2006 at 9:30 am
I will miss you buddy more than words can tell! Everyone loved Darrin. I dont know one person that could dislike a guy like that. This is super hard to deal with and its even harder to find the words to write, but to sum it up in a word Darrin was “GREAT”
September 12th, 2006 at 11:13 am
You will be missed by everyone. Rest in peace brother.
September 12th, 2006 at 12:41 pm
Darrin I loved you more then anything in this world! You were my other half:) You made me into the person I am today and I can’t thank you enough. You were so beautiful, talented, and intelligent. I will miss your dumb smirk that was always there before you were about to say something dumb or do something bad..haha. Even though I didnt get to say much towards the end I know you loved me just as much. Baxter misses his dad:) I know you were not very religious, but in my heart I know that one day I will be able to see you…..hold you…and smell you again. I love you Darrin….rest in peace
September 12th, 2006 at 4:09 pm
Darrin, I will always remember you for your ability to make me laugh, it was usually at my expense, but still hillarious. I am so happy to have known you. You were one of a kind and will be so truly missed!
September 12th, 2006 at 4:57 pm
Darrin you were loved by many and will be missed severly. I love you buddy!
September 12th, 2006 at 5:28 pm
Darrin, I can’t even think of where to start…
I will always remember you for your good heart, your distinct laugh and your ability to see the humor in life (your best trait in my book, besides the hair.) I can’t imagine how others feel because I’m real damn sad. You are a great man and a real person. Steve and I love you and miss you. Rody, Laura and I will be at your bar again (hopefully you don’t have to wear a god-awful uniform: Casa, Remmingtons, Eau) Everyone is better for having known you, thanks for the egg nog!
September 12th, 2006 at 5:59 pm
Darrin, rest in peace buddy. YOU WILL BE MISSED! We werent all that close but, you still put a smile on my face everytime i saw you, i will miss those smoke breaks together.
September 12th, 2006 at 7:03 pm
Darrin,
Well what can I say? You always knew that I did it and you still forgave me and became a dear friend. I will miss your goofy laugh. I will never forget you. I am so glad that we became good friends over the years. You were an amazing person who had a personality that drew people to you. You will be forever in our hearts.
With Love,
Sara
September 12th, 2006 at 7:11 pm
Darrin,
This has been so hard. We love you and are going to miss you so much. We just wish we could see you one more time. We hope you know how loved you were. We thank you for all the years. You were family to us. We will always, always remember the good times. Thank you for always being there for us. Thank you for loving Olivia and for thinking of her. Thank you for being you. You were the best. We will see you again one day. And until that day comes, watch over us and we’ll keep you in our hearts.
September 12th, 2006 at 7:25 pm
Best wishes to his family and loved ones!! Rest in peace Darrin.
Alkim
September 12th, 2006 at 7:36 pm
Heart felt condolesence to his family and loved ones!! Rest in peace Darrin.
Alkim
September 12th, 2006 at 8:04 pm
rest in peace Darrin!! you’ll be missed…..
September 12th, 2006 at 8:07 pm
Darrin, Querido amigo- you were a great friend, I will miss you. Your spirit has elvevated and God waits for you at the door to happiness- we will see each other again- Hermando por vida for life, Pedro
September 12th, 2006 at 9:30 pm
you will be so missed, much more than you prolly ever realized… my eau experience will never be the same. you were fricken hysterical and kind…when kate would slack on customer service (who? kate?), you were always there with a stiff drink and a jab at kate… this is un-freaking-believable. my heart goes out to all who loved him.
September 12th, 2006 at 9:38 pm
To those who knew Darrin, the memory that sparks in your mind is his smile and laugh. A laugh like he was always up to no good. Darrin was the one of the most honest, upfront people to ever enter my life. You always knew exactly where you stood with Darrin. At times he acted not to give a shit; Darrin truly cared for those close to him. Darrin leaves behind a number of people who care and love him deeply.
Darrin, I am so fortunate to have spent some great laughs with you this summer rafting WI and Lollapalooza. Even though we lived in separate cities, you always went out of your way to stay in touch and sustain your friendship. I always looked forward to hearing new stories and adventures you constantly managed to get yourself into. Darrin, thanks for the tons of memories, introducing me to new music, serving me up affordable Eau tabs, and always being there as a friend. I miss you dearly.
-LaRue
A brief candle; both ends burning
An endless mile; a bus wheel turning
A friend to share the lonesome times
A handshake and a sip of wine
So say it loud and let it ring
We are all a part of everything
The future, present and the past
Fly on proud bird
You’re free at last.
September 12th, 2006 at 10:45 pm
rest in peace darrin, you will be missed by all
September 13th, 2006 at 5:44 am
All of us who ride understand and feel for you. “live to ride and ride to live”
Ride free my friend , ride free.
September 13th, 2006 at 6:45 am
Darrin, Every afternoon this week I keep waiting for you to walk by my office as you have done just about every day for the past few years. You always offered a big smile and friendly hello and sometimes a funny story about something that happened to you the night before either in Cafe Eau and or when you went out. I will miss seeing you –you always had a way of brightening my afternoons when I needed it most! Rest in peace Darrin!! –Amy Baca
September 13th, 2006 at 7:05 am
Darrin, you were always there for a hug. You are missed so much. You and your ‘Eau’ family were as tight as could be, it was a sweet thing to see. Your hugs and smile will be how I will remember you….thank you.
September 13th, 2006 at 8:58 am
Darrin-
A quote from your favorite person, Natalie Merchant, “You were the love for certain of my life”.
I am so thankful that we had come back to eachother again, we always did! I don’t know how I will live without you. You always said we were soulmates…I can’t wait to find you again! I can’t wait to touch you, kiss you and listen to all your stories!!
You were the most amazing person…so kind, so funny. You made everyone laugh!! My only comfort is knowing you are with Emily now.
Goodbye my lover, goodbye my friend. You have been the one…you have been the one for me. I’m so hollow.
I love you. Forever and always.
-Julie
September 13th, 2006 at 12:46 pm
Thank you for all the wonderful memories…from the crazy days in Springfield to here in St Louis. You are an amazing person who always had a special place in my heart. Your heart was like gold…you were always true and genuine…and anyone could see that in your eyes. You will be missed but never forgotten…love ya.
~Mandy
September 13th, 2006 at 1:33 pm
Words can not even come close to express how much you will be missed. I will always remember your laugh and inability to clean the damn ice bar mirror. Eau will never be the same with out you behind that bar. I have known you there almost from the begining with me. You were such an awsome friend and I hope I will see you again some day… love ya and miss you more than you will know.
“Don’t be dismayed at good-byes A farewell is necessary before you can meet again. And meeting again after a moment or lifetime is certain for those who are friends.”
September 13th, 2006 at 1:35 pm
in the brief time that i’ve known you, Darrin, you’ve always been good to me. you extended your hand in friendship and that is a gift i will always treasure. i loved working with you. you were a great bartender and one of the funniest guys i’ve ever met. i could see immediately why Liz spoke so fondly of you. although i won’t get the chance to know you better, i’m a better person for knowing you all the same. i will miss you. Aloha ‘oe, my friend. Hia moe i loko maluhia.
September 13th, 2006 at 3:16 pm
I will never forget the good times we had whether we were out or laying around talking all nite. you always were a great inspiration to me. I will always love and miss you with all my heart. I will always have comfort knowing you will live on through me and I will have a part of you with me forever. I Love you Jax………..Bumblebee
September 13th, 2006 at 3:22 pm
Darrin you will truly be missed here. You managed to brighten a bad day, incite genuine laughter, and instill strong and lasting friendships to all of us. Your heart was one of the kindest I have ever known. Every single one of our lives is better because you were in it. I am deeply saddened by your parting and wish that I could have spent more time with you, visited more often since I moved. We all just figured we had more time. D, you’ll always be close to my heart. We will always have the memories, and though we’re sad now, they will always manage to bring a smile. I’ll miss you and that up to no good smirk. Rest in peace buddy. We all love you!
September 13th, 2006 at 3:29 pm
Darrin - My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. we had a lot of fun and crazy times together, whether we were at work or out. I never thought I would say that I will miss hearing “Carter what do I pull please?” you will be missed by all, Rest in peace. I love you.
September 13th, 2006 at 5:24 pm
It’s still a shock for all of us at the Chase. I know you will never be forgotten and that the memories we all have of you will last forever. This is my chance to say goodbye until we meet again.
I will not grieve the day you died, but I shall celebrate the day you were born and the days you lived.
September 13th, 2006 at 8:14 pm
I feel very lucky to have known and worked with Darrin. He had such a quirky nature and animated personality that you couldn’t help but to feel giddy/ retarded around him. He also possessed such a generous soul, he would offer you half of anything he had. YOU ROCKED IT TILL THE END MY BROTHER, BUT DON’T STOP, YOUR SONG HAS JUST BEGUN. PEACE-OUT my friend, i will looking for you soon in the harvest moon.
September 13th, 2006 at 8:16 pm
Darrin–you will be greatly missed and I will always remember you as you were a great friend and all around person..rest in peace
September 14th, 2006 at 2:12 am
St. Louis will not be the same without Darrin. Somehow, everytime I left and came back, you were always there, and it was always great to see you. You were always bitching about something, and you made the best espresso martinis in the world. Oh, and you invented Brunch Mind Erasers- thank you for that.
I will really miss you.
September 14th, 2006 at 7:03 am
I have known you for almost two years, and you became one of my very close and best friend, and I don’t have a lot of close friends. We both love you my little brother, and we are going to miss you. Rest in peace.
September 14th, 2006 at 12:54 pm
rest in peace
September 14th, 2006 at 12:58 pm
Darrin,
You were such a great guy. I will always remember all the good times we had together. You always got it and I loved that about you. Take care, good friend. Love ya, Crockett
September 14th, 2006 at 1:55 pm
I will forever be happy that I had the opportunity to know you. I thoroughly enjoyed working with you and we had many great times together on the other side of the bar. I only wish we had more time to spend together. Rest in peace my man, your memory will live on.
September 14th, 2006 at 2:36 pm
Rest in peace. . . You will be missed by all who lives you have touched
September 15th, 2006 at 12:02 am
I really wanted to read this tonight at Darrins memorial…I didnt have the guts…
Where to start…Darrin was my friend, coworker, entertainer and story teller, he was loved by many and many loved him. He is and will be a dear friend to all of us. Do not morn his death but celebrate his life. Because his life is worth celebrating. We all know that is what he would want. We can only honor his spirt in thinking of him as a son, brother, grandson, cousin, best friend, lover, bartender, coworker, and aquantice, it is only thru all of our memories that Darrin will live on… I will never forget you & will always love you,,,
I found a quote that sums it all up for me…
“Don’t be dismayed at goodbyes a farewell is necessary before you you can meet again. And meetng again after a moment or lifetime it is certain for those who are friends”
I love you Darrin and will never forget you.
September 15th, 2006 at 12:41 am
Darrin, it was good to see you tonight man, spending time with you and your friend, i knew you were there with all of us. We tried our best to not to make it “drama” we all know you hated it drama! I dont know what to say man, we all love you and miss you and you know that! I will not say anything else because i dont know what to say, but i will talk to you more later! i promise man, i promise! Hang in tight!
Huzur icinde uyu!!!
September 15th, 2006 at 7:23 am
So I finally have time to check out this blog site. I’m hungover again for the first time since the last time you (and JR) got me drunk at Eau. I’ve spent the whole morning reading your posts, and I’ve only gotten through half of them. I hope you can look down on everything that has transpired, because with all your bitching I don’t think you realized how many people loved you. No one has made me laugh more than you in my life. You also really knew how to piss me off, but it was a pissed off that I actually enjoyed. I know I was able to return the favor to you as well. I’ve kept myself so busy the last few days that I honestly don’t even think the hardest has hit me yet. But we both believe in Karma, and the thing that keeps me smiling is that I know you are in a good place because, according to Karma, you deserve that. We had stories, most of which I can’t even tell anyone because they were so bad, and some of which I tell others now for a good laugh. Mr. Silver, the paperboy, sneaking out, the cars, grinch garages, Elen and Elenor, Greenbriar and the golf carts, Kris and Darrin’s summer of fun, getting you down from the tree, Cassie the piece of shit dog that only you could love, Casa nights, Eau nights, Rick’s Cafe nights, Down Under nights, alot of nights and slaphappy mornings, and many more.
I’ve only seen you cry once in my life, and it was when you lost Emily. Now I know you are there with her, and I hope to join you both someday. I know you’ll have a drink waiting for me when I get there. I love you buddy.
Kris
September 15th, 2006 at 9:57 am
It has just been the past couple of years I got to know Darrin. Last time we had a great chat over a couple of pints. The news came to me in Scotland and sorry I could not attend the funeral. I’ll miss you coming into the Arms for a laugh big yin. Rest in Peace Darrin mate.
September 15th, 2006 at 12:51 pm
Darrin, what can I say… I miss you. We all miss you. You’ve been a part of my life in one capacity or another for many years now and in that time, you’ve changed me more than you could possibly know. You sparked my passion for design. You seriously influenced my taste in music. You taught me about growing up and down when necessary. Most of all, you filled my heart with a million wonderful memories and for that I am forever grateful.
Thank you for following me home and stepping into my life. Thank you for introducing me to all the other wonderful people who loved you - especially Simona and Alla. You gave me my best friends; you brought us all together. Yesterday was a testament to that.
I keep thinking that I hope you know how much I loved you - but I know you did. Smoke one with Timmer for me.
Kate
September 15th, 2006 at 1:18 pm
Ah Darrin… after having you as a constant in my life for 5 years, it’s going to be hard to visit St. Louis without you there. It’s hard to think of Eau without you but I know I’ll always like it a little more because of the memories I have of working with you…. Well, I use the term ‘working’ loosely. Don’t get me wrong, you were a power house on a busy Friday or Saturday night and you wouldn’t hesitate to give me your last bottle of Stoli if I was in a pinch…. But that’s not what I’ll remember most. My favorite times were back in the day when I worked in the Café on Sundays during the day. I would usually make around $5 and you would make about $4 ($2 from me and $2 from whoever was the other server – which you would promptly return to us by leaving it on the bar and disappearing… you little devil). Nevertheless, I always looked forward to Sundays because they were so relaxing. I would come in and open up the Café, make a peanut butter sandwich, have line up, wait, have a brunch mindscrambler, wait, open your bar, wait… and you would come in around Noon. At this point we would watch tv, play with the ice bar, talk about how much money we made the night before, go steal a bite to eat from brunch… just basically have a good time shooting the breeze and sharing stories. I would always go home so calm and content. Why? Even though I had only made $5, I had spent the day getting to know you better. I had spent the day with my friend. I love you and I miss you but, I learned so much from you and you will never leave my heart.
September 16th, 2006 at 5:46 am
Hi Darrin,
Buddy, I miss you so much! I just got up and turned on the TV and it was so cool because it was on the food channel with Emril and he was cooking mussels! Right away he pointed out the ones that were open and was saying they were no good and to discard them! I couldn’t believe it. I’ve been thinking about that time alot and it’s those types of things that make me think you are still with me, watching and listening. I’m sure you are and I keep trying to remind myself that you are in a perfect place and it is only my missing you that makes it so hard. Thank you for everything. I just wish I had more time to let you know how much I appreciated all of your kindness. You were like a brother to me and are irreplacable. I won’t say goodbye, so I’ll see you at a later time.
September 17th, 2006 at 8:22 am
Where to begin…I finally got a chance to read this blog and I am AMAZED! I am so lucky to be Darrin’s only sister. We had come a long way since I was the ‘reporter’ telling on him every chance I got but in the past few years we became very close. I just wish I had one more chance to see him, hug him, tell him I love him, and over course get drunk with him. He spoiled me like no one else ever will. Thank you to all who loved him. I had no way to prepare myself for the memorial service, but all of you who came helped me get through it. If I live my life to 1/3 of what he did, I will be lucky. Thank you to JR and Sam for taking care of me this past week. Thank you to Kris for all you did this past week. Thank you to Carrie for just being you. Thank you to the Chase for all you are doing in his memory. I am at a loss for words.
~adria
September 18th, 2006 at 3:27 pm
Darrin, you will be so missed. I was fortunate enough to have so many laughs with you. Thank you for always over serving me and never taking me to seriously. You are seriously one of the most generous and kind people I have ever met. Thank you.
Alla
September 18th, 2006 at 9:14 pm
Mark, Ray and myself will be leaving for Arizona in a couple of weeks on another snake hunting trip. Darrin, I wish you were coming with us! Its going to be hard not having you there with us catching Gila monsters and rattle snakes. We will never forget the amazing experiences we had together. Thank you for you, my memories of us all together will forever make me smile. Love you, Eric
September 22nd, 2006 at 1:02 am
Darrin,
I only got a chance to know you for a few months, but you were as goofy as they come and you were one of the few that made me feel right at home at the Chase. Thank You for not throwing my cell phone across the smoke room when u couldn’t figure it out!!! Sorry. You cracked me up and there were alot of good laughs with u and everyone else at work. Keep things chillin up there and we will all see you again. We all miss you like crazy and i wish i could’ve gotten a chance to get to know you better. You are a great person and I will miss you sir!
Heather
September 25th, 2006 at 9:04 am
I first met Darren in 2001 when I moved to St. Louis, I knew absolutley no one in this town and I lived down the street from the Chase so I became a regular at the Eau Bar. He recognized me the second time I came back and we began talking and became pretty good friends. He made me and my then girlfriend ( now wife) always feel welcome and we would see him out all over the west end and at different places in the city. No matter what was going on in his life he always made us laugh and feel welcome. He had a certain knack for cheering you up and he always was so down to earth and generous. (thanks for the cheap bar tabs buddy) Ocassionally we hung out with him and he was a ton of fun and really clever. We are a lot alike in a lot of ways it seemed so we natuarally got along and had a great time. He even looked out for me a few times and saved me some pretty compromising situations. I know that everyone here wishes that whatever happened didn’t, that maybe one circumstance would have been different and that we wouldn’t be doing this today. Darrin will be greatly missed. I hope that each of us can take a part of his kindness and geniune attitue with us and spread to the people we know. I know that I will see you in a better place (provided I get in). I don;t want to say may you rest in peace but I hope that you continue to be a part of our lives even though you’re not there everyday. I know going to the Eau bar will never be the same and that no matter how many times I go there we will always be looking for you. We both miss you. I’ll see you soon buddy and this time I’ll bring the scotch. Thank you for being part of all of our lives you made this world a better place for all of us.
Matt
September 28th, 2006 at 10:38 pm
Darrin like everyone else has said you were an amazing person I know I didnt get to know you for too long but you always made me laugh when I would come to work and you were always willing to help me out! I hope to see you again one day, I will Miss you so Much and R.I.P!!!! P.S. ** Watch over Simona and Jr ** It hurts me the most to see them cry. Lauren*
October 2nd, 2006 at 10:09 am
I wasn’t going to write on this because I am not sure what to say. You helped me get through one of the hardest times in my life, and I probably never thanked you for that. So thank you. I’m sure you didn’t even realize how much you being around and checking in on my all the time meant. This is so hard for me. I have so many good memories of you, if I wrote them it would be too long. But I am so thankful that I have those memories. So happy that you were a part of my life. So happy that I was part of yours. I’ll miss that smile of yours. I’ll just miss you being crazy, making rattlesnakes spit at people and whatnot. I really love you, and thanks for hitting john popper with my lighter. it is one of my favorite memories of you being an ass just to make me laugh. But really thank you. Thank you for being a true friend. I hope you see how many people love you, and know you are in our hearts and thoughts everyday. I love you and miss you.
October 8th, 2006 at 10:32 am
I miss ya buddy.
Garry
October 9th, 2006 at 5:55 pm
Darrin,
I am still having trouble believing it’s true. It’s so wierd being so far. You were the last person I saw before I left besides Beth. I wish I would have come back. I hope you can see from where you are how much everyone loves you. Everyone saw your humor, wit and intelligence. I was lucky enough to be one of the many people to experience how gentle and sincere you were behind the jokes. I loook forward to seeing you again…
We will never stop missing you.
Love,
Autumn
October 10th, 2006 at 10:51 pm
one month and it feels like a second. i can’t believe it.
October 23rd, 2006 at 4:57 pm
Darrin was such a great friend to me at Cafe Eau. From the 2 years that I lived in the area of the Chase, Darrin never forgot my name and my favorite drink.
I wish I had found out earlier.
Rest in Peace, Friend
November 3rd, 2006 at 8:59 am
miss you my friend.
November 3rd, 2006 at 9:53 am
Darrin, I am going to miss you so much! Seeing you at Cafe Eau behind that bar many a night. We spent many years causing trouble together - High School (way to many times to recall), working with you at Casa, Mexico, Pissing Mark off all the time because, well face it, we had to much fun together! I miss you my friend! You were a true friend! So giving, funny, smart, insightful, and beautiful inside and out! I am glad that I got to spend so much time with you during your way too short life. I am going to miss you more than you will ever know. You had no idea how many people loved you, but I am sure that you know that now! You have your own website and no one is giving you shit - I love it. I remember you told me that you were taking your myspace page off this summer when I saw you at Harry’s because girls were posting mean things on there (or at least giving you a hard time). Well, I guess it was because they all just loved you so much!
Please look over all of us until we can all be together again! Again, I will miss you dearly! Rest in Peace my friend!
Love, Stacey
November 4th, 2006 at 9:23 pm
Darrin, seems like just last week we were all living in springfield with out any cares, lazy days. To me you always seemed free spirited, and full of life, sharing it with those around you. I will remember you with stories of good times for as long as I may.
When we meet again; shots of Diesel Fuel for all!
Peace my friend,
Hermdiesel
November 10th, 2006 at 12:13 pm
i love you and you are weighing heavily on my mind today.
November 10th, 2006 at 3:17 pm
Two months…I miss you more every day.
I love you.
-Julie
November 15th, 2006 at 1:15 am
DARRIN WHERE THE FUCK IS MY HUMMINGBUID TATOO????? I AM SO SAD I MI9SS YOU! WHERE4 ARE YOU
November 15th, 2006 at 1:27 am
OH HOW I WISH YOU HERE WE ARE JUST TWO SOULS SWIMMING IN A FISH BOWL YEAR AFTER YEAR. ……………………………………………HOW WE FOUND THE SAME OLD FEARS ,YEAR AFTER YEAR. WISH YOU YOU WERE HERE OH HOW I WISH YOU WERE HERE!
November 18th, 2006 at 6:11 pm
Darrin such a sweetheart who always had a smartass comment. I miss you. I will always remember the great times of working together in Springfield together and coming to see you at Cafe Eau in St.Louis. I know you are probably watching over all of us cause you always have been so caring. Miss you!!
December 11th, 2006 at 3:06 pm
Darrin I miss you so much! I’m trying not to shed any more tears of grief, rather tears of remembernce but it is so hard. I know you are in a better place. I love you.
December 11th, 2006 at 10:31 pm
Still thinking of the last few weeks you were here man, thanks for staying in touch and visiting us in Chicago. I know things are good in the end…we all miss you here.
December 12th, 2006 at 1:32 am
i wish i could give you a big hug right now. i miss you tons and thing about you everyday. i love you d!!!!
December 17th, 2006 at 1:53 am
D- I still think about you every single day, I feel like you are still around. This has been so hard for everyone. I, along with everyone misses you so very much. It is still so hard to believe. I wish you were just in some sort of witness protection program. MISS YOU DEARLY. I just got off of work and I, for a second, almost wanted to call to see if you wanted to go and get a drink. I do that quite often. You were the best.
December 21st, 2006 at 12:15 am
Darrin, I miss you so much and was thinking of you the other day when we installed the new ice bar lights… you would not believe them… and you would so hate them. Flashing stripper lights, Merry Christmas!! All my love. Missing you!
Lisa
January 5th, 2007 at 9:15 am
Darrin, For some reason writing on this thing makes me feel a little better, like I’m actually talking to you. I wake up some mornings and think that maybe this is just one of those times we’re broken up and you’ll be calling me any day….then I remember…and it crushes me all over again.
2007…it just doesn’t feel right without you. I was thinking about all the new years we spent together…i would have given anything to have kissed you at midnight! I remember our first new years and how we were late to Yust’s party.
You are in my thoughts every day, sometimes it makes me cry and sometimes I laugh out loud, we have so many stories-I just hope i never forget any them. I treasure the time we spent together….I love you.
Forever and always-
Julie
PS-I going to rent the Other Sister - haha!!! : ) I miss hearing you make fun of that movie…I think you even did it the last time I saw you!
January 10th, 2007 at 8:09 pm
I know you know I am going through so much right now, and somehow I hope you are with me. I miss you so much! I wish you were here to support me right now, I need you so much.
January 11th, 2007 at 8:10 pm
I am just now writing because i just found out about this. I just want to say from the first time I had class with you at Meremac I knew you were a special person and you would touch my life. I couldn’t believe it when I started coming in Eau and you were there. You always put a smile on my face. I am so glad that I went to Eau that Thursday for one last conversation. You were and always will be a truly unique and special person. You are always in my heart. I will never forget ya!.
Love ya,
Tracy
P.S. Thanks for that nice bottle of chapagne on my b-day a few years ago! HAHA!
January 12th, 2007 at 1:17 pm
i’ve been thinking about you a lot. found some “new” old pics of you that are awesome, and when i’m feeling down i just listen to my clip of bertha that i keep on my cell phone. i play it to remind me that you are always with me, because i am sure you made that happen. i love you…
January 25th, 2007 at 1:44 am
Darrin-
I heard a song that reminded me of you tonight. Made me cry my eyes out… I called Jr. He told me a joke and made me feel better. I love the fact that we were friends. You made life a hell of alot better and totally more fun. I love you and wish I knew you longer, earlier and later. Love you, crying again…..
January 29th, 2007 at 5:57 pm
Whats up Darrin? Thiniing about you man, you live on forever!
January 31st, 2007 at 12:43 pm
We miss you so much! Not one day goes by that we don’t think about and talk about you! We love you!
Tim and Laura
February 1st, 2007 at 1:15 pm
D ~ I’ve been so busy these last few months. Maybe it’s good because it keeps my mind off the reality of it. Every time I slow down though, every time I think of relaxing ………… I wouldn’t mind being able to call you up. The guys are planning on heading out to Durango, CO for the trip this year. Thanks for the memories man. There are a lot of them. I still laugh when I tell my ‘where’s waldo’ story from Wisconsin. Take it easy bro. I miss ya. ~ G
February 8th, 2007 at 8:41 am
Just thinking quite a bit about you this morning. You are sooooo missed.
Sara
February 13th, 2007 at 1:25 pm
What is Death?
Death is nothing at all.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
I am I and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other,
that we still are.
Call me by my old familiar name.
Speak to me in the easy way
which you always used.
Put no difference in your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word
that it always was.
Let it be spoken without affect,
without the trace of a shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same that it ever was.
There is absolutely unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you,
for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just around the corner.
All is well.
~ Henry Scott Holland
miss you with all of my heart darrin….
February 13th, 2007 at 11:04 pm
Just thinking of you…we just had “stars and diamonds” and It was not the same. There was a tribute to you on the slide show and I could not control the tears… I looked over at Carter and she couldn’t either… there are just to many people still thinking of you and missing you.
Love ya D…
Lisa
February 14th, 2007 at 12:41 pm
Missing you baby…wish you were here so I could cook you your favorite dinner…and drink a bottle of wine (or two) with you. Or better yet-a bottle of Veuve! Wherever you are, know that you are in my heart and in my thoughts even more than usual today. You’ll always be my Valentine.
Forever and always,
Julie
March 10th, 2007 at 1:08 pm
STEVIE RAY VAUGHAN
“Life Without You”
oh now baby….Tell me how have you been
We all have missed you….And the way you grin
The day is necessary….Every now and then
For souls to move on….Givin’ life back again, and again
Fly on fly on….Fly on my friend
Go on….Live again….Love again
Day after day….Night after night
Sittin’ here singin’ every minute….As the years go passing by
Long look in the mirror….We’ve come face to face
Wishin’ all the love we took for granted….Love we’d have today
Life without you….All the love you passed my way
The angels have waited for so long….Now they have their way
Take your place….
I know you’re probably mad at me for being so sad today. I’m only sad because I’m here without you, but I know you’re happy and ok. Thanks for coming to me in my dreams…
I love you.
Forever and always,
Julie
March 11th, 2007 at 3:18 am
i can’t believe its been six months already… ok there are just too many coincidences today that are pointing towards you. i’m so glad that i had someone who loved you to spend this day with. so glad. i love you d.
March 12th, 2007 at 2:50 pm
sat was very weird for me and ironic. i guess i agree with beth. so many things happened to me in relation to you. however, they were good things that kept pushing me to forget my sadness and smile. people kept coming up to me with stories that all somehow revolved around you. i know you are gone and i still cant believe it, but through this tragedy i have become so close to some people that i hold so dear in my life and i can never thank you enough for that. i miss you so much but i always know you are around -love you always-
March 26th, 2007 at 1:41 pm
Well, sitting here in my new (shitty) apartment, living my new different (and sometimes shitty) life.. None of this is truly about me, but as the sixth month since you have past on is coming to a close, and talking to a close friend about you and how “strong” I have been.. Made me realize how weak I am without you around. I miss you everyday buddy, and miss all of the things that were takin advantage of in our friendship that I wish I could thank you for over and over again. The irony that I was down this weekend, and thinkin about you, then googled my name out of bordem brought me to this site just made me want to stop in and tell you though you are gone, you are still very influential in my life, and I miss you deeply..
April 8th, 2007 at 10:33 am
hey *#$@$&^ what are ya doin?, …. That’s how most of our conversations began.
Here we are at yet another family oriented holiday, and I think of who to call to kill the day. …… well, I guess I’ll just drive around till I find something to do. We’re leaving May 28th for the trip. Changed our destination to Arizona & Rocky Point, Mexico. We’ll be thinking of ya, and wishing you were there. I hate the fact that this blog even exists.
April 13th, 2007 at 12:13 pm
There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart. -Ghandi
You are so missed.
Forever and always,
Julie
April 15th, 2007 at 6:22 pm
Miss you so much.
May 3rd, 2007 at 3:06 pm
I was just thinking about you and the pictures from the guys trip last year! The one of you tied to the tree is my favorite! You look so mad. I know exactly what you were about to say! I remember the day you boys left for that trip I told Tim and Mark “no picking on Darrin”! It didn’t help you any … it probably made things worse! Those boys loved messing with you. They are going to miss you so much on this year’s trip! The stories won’t be the same. We all miss you so so much. I don’t think time will ever make this better! I think you will be missed every day for the rest of all of our lives! WE LOVE YOU!
May 11th, 2007 at 9:27 am
so i went to eddies yesterday. i haven’t been there in months, but thats where i went almost everyday for lunch last september and oct. it this awesome bar/restaurant with a bunch of motorcycles hanging from the ceiling. i had never been there before, but after your accident was just drawn to the place. had a few drinks with a good friend and we talked about you. it was a nice talk. you are heavy on my mind though. i woke up thinking about you and i can’t seem to shake it off. i miss you and love you tons.
May 29th, 2007 at 12:01 pm
I was at the lake this weekend…we were all remembering the times you were with us… how you tried to catch a turtle for Adrienne and how you were snake hunting. I miss you so much.
Going to see Roger Waters in a couple weeks with JR and Simona…I know you’ll be with us…
Forever and Always babe,
Julie
June 3rd, 2007 at 8:44 pm
I had just caught up with some of the old group from school over the computer. You came up in some thoughts and I had wondered where you had ended up and what you were up to. This news is sad. I know one thing you are probably having fun wherever you are. Thanks for all the good times back in the day!
June 4th, 2007 at 3:27 pm
Miss you so much. Had a great dream about you a few nights ago. Oh how I wish it was real… It is still hard for me to believe this is all true. St. Louis is just not the same without you.
August 1st, 2007 at 10:01 am
I just goggled your name on a whim and this is what I found. I cant belive my eyes at first I thought it was some one else but its you I wish it wasn’t but it is. I havn’t talked to you in 4 years and this is now the saddest day of my life. You have always been on my mind. Thanks for all the good times through out life. I remember when I got out of the army you took me down to Jazzfest in New Orleans i had the time of my life. Tanks for being in my wedding and for all the great times.
August 12th, 2007 at 10:24 pm
Thinking about you and missing you so much…
August 13th, 2007 at 8:10 am
You are on the brain a lot today………miss you!
August 13th, 2007 at 3:03 pm
Celebrating life is what birthdays are all about…So today…I celebrate your wonderful life, a life that touched so many. Happy Birthday Darrin! We miss you.
August 13th, 2007 at 7:49 pm
so nicely put. i love you d! happy birthday.
August 13th, 2007 at 9:56 pm
Happy Birthday Darrin! You are so, so missed.
August 13th, 2007 at 9:57 pm
Happy Birthday Darrin! Everyone misses you so.
September 8th, 2007 at 7:27 pm
Darrin - You are weighing heavily on my mind this weekend. Everyone misses you, it has been almost a year and this all still doesn’t seem real at all.
September 10th, 2007 at 8:29 am
D-
One year…still doesn’t feel real.
I keep listening to if I am a stranger…it gives me chills. Thank you for showing me that song…that moment on the el when we listened to it together will always stay with me.
I love and miss you….
Forever and always,
Julie
September 10th, 2007 at 1:57 pm
…Thinkin of you. Everyday, but especially today. I’d give anything to have you here to make fun of me…miss you like hell.
September 11th, 2007 at 10:07 pm
It has been 1 year ago today that I got the news at 7 in the morning i remember exactly what I was doing and it has been heavy on my mind and thoughts all day…i just can’t beleive it has been a year!!
I miss you so much… patrick sent me a text just this weekend explaining how he didnt clean the ice bar mirror and since I left Eau there was nothing I could do about it and frankly I gave up way before you left us!
I love you, miss you and think of you all the time! Lisa
October 22nd, 2007 at 7:37 pm
Darrin, whats up buddy? Still think about you all the time man in so many different ways and enviroments. It is amazing how influencial you were in some mnay peoples lifes including mine. You know you will never be forgotten and there are alot of people who are looking foward to seeing you again. Alot of times I wonder what you are doing when there are so many people thinking about you. Whatever it may be I know you are having a good time doing it! Love you buddy, Bub
November 28th, 2007 at 1:04 am
so it seemed like you were everywhere i looked tonight. i like to think with all the little reminders around that you were there watching that show with me. i miss you.
December 13th, 2007 at 10:53 am
Missing you pretty bad…so many times I want to call and tell you things…things that no one else would appreciate. This sucks.
Forever and always,
Jules
February 6th, 2008 at 11:29 am
You’re on my mind a lot lately… thinking about how my life changed when i met you and how changed i would be if you were still here. I miss you more than I could ever express.
k.
February 15th, 2008 at 1:09 am
i miss your smile.
May 15th, 2008 at 9:24 pm
I still can’t ride.
Miss ya bro.
June 16th, 2008 at 9:07 am
I HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT YOU ALOT RECENTLY. I CANT SEEM TO FORGET ALL THE GREAT TIMES WE SHARED TOGETHER IN SUCH A SMALL AMOUNT OF TIME. MY LIFE HAS CHANGED SO MUCH NOW YOU WOULD BE, AND PROBABLY, ARE SO PROUD OF ME. I HAVE BECOME A GREAT WOMAN AND MOMMY. THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING…..YOU DIDN’T KNOW IT AT THE TIME, BUT SHE SAVED MY LIFE…..SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE I COULD OF SAVED YOURS, IF I WOULDN’T HAVE BEEN SO HURTFUL AND ANSWERED YOUR CALLS MAYBE YOU WOULDN’T HAVE BEEN IN THAT SITUATION. LOVE, BUMBLEBEE!
August 4th, 2008 at 10:59 pm
I was thinking about you and wanted to get back in touch, sadly I found this
My prayers go out to all that loved you.
You were a great person and helped me through some ruff times
wish i could have thanked you
you will be missed
September 14th, 2008 at 11:07 pm
I saw the story headline on stltoday.com tonight and thought, “Hey, I knew a Darren that was a bartender at Casa”, then I read the article and my heart sank as it explained how you used to go to the desert and collect snakes. He told us that very story - I knew it had to be the same guy.
My wife and I liked him a lot - Darren, Jeff, and Bob at Casa so long ago. I can’t believe he is gone and I’m just learning of it. My wife was heartbroken.
He was always kind to us and easy to talk to. I am certain he is missed. We didn’t even know his last name and he had a positive impact on our lives.
Paul & Darla